I Feel Lost
Helping Young Women Navigate Big Emotions
If you’ve been whispering to yourself “I feel lost” and wondering if anyone else feels the same, I want you to know you’re not alone. I’m writing this for you, whether you’re a teenager trying to work out who you are or a young woman in your twenties wondering how life got so overwhelming.
For teenage girls and women in their twenties, these can be years filled with change, pressure, and uncertainty. Emotions can feel bigger than you know how to handle.
From friendship dramas and identity struggles to the stress of school, university, work, or simply figuring out what you want from life, it can feel like you’re being pulled in every direction. And when the outside world expects you to look like you’ve got it all together, it’s even harder to admit when you’re struggling inside.
I see the weight you carry that no one else notices, the way you plaster on a smile in the day and quietly fall apart at night. You don’t have to hide that here.
We live in a world that never stops talking, and yet it can feel like no one is really listening. The pressure to succeed, look a certain way, and stay “on” is constant. Social media only amplifies it, serving up highlight reels that make it easy to believe everyone else has it all figured out.
Meanwhile, you might be thinking, I feel numb inside or I can’t cope anymore, and wondering what’s wrong with you. Those thoughts can be heavy, and the silence around them can make you feel like you’re the only one thinking them, but you’re not.
“You don’t have to have it all together to be worthy of love, belonging, and peace.”
I’ve Been Where You Are
When I was younger, I didn’t know who I was supposed to be, I remember thinking “I feel lost”. I tried to fit in, but it always felt like I was playing a role that wasn’t mine. I smiled, stayed quiet, and hid the messier parts of myself in the hope I’d be accepted. But inside, I felt small, invisible, and lost.
That fear of being judged, of not getting it right, of being left behind by friends, it kept me silent. I became an expert at pretending everything was fine, even when my chest felt tight and my mind wouldn’t stop racing. And now, with the constant loop of comparison online, I know that fear can feel even louder, like you can never quite catch up.
I also know what it’s like to feel you’ve drifted so far from yourself that you’re not sure you could ever find your way back. But I promise, you can.
Imagine waking up without that knot in your stomach. Picture walking into a room and feeling comfortable in your own skin, without changing a single thing about yourself. My emotional regulation therapy works towards you feeling a quiet confidence that doesn’t depend on who notices you or what they think.
Why You Might Be Feeling Lost in Life
- Constant pressure to look or be a certain way
- Anxiety, depression, or emotional overwhelm
- Disconnection from your body and emotions
- Feeling misunderstood or dismissed
- Struggling with friendships, identity, or self-worth
- Carrying silent pain or trauma no one sees
These feelings don’t mean you’re broken. They mean your nervous system has been in survival mode for too long, alert, guarded, braced for impact. When you’ve been in that state for a while, it’s easy to forget what calm even feels like.
Imagine lying in bed and feeling your whole body release, safe enough to truly rest, without replaying the day’s conversations or planning how to be better tomorrow. Imagine drifting to sleep knowing you don’t have to prove your worth in the morning.
How to Feel Like Myself Again
This isn’t about fixing you. It’s about remembering who you are underneath all the pressure, the noise, and the masks you’ve been wearing to get by. We start small, learning what safety feels like in your body, practising moments of softness, breathing deeply, speaking your truth without fear of being judged.
We explore what lights you up, even in tiny ways, and we learn to follow those threads. It might be the way your shoulders drop when you walk under trees, or how your chest loosens when you hear your favourite song. Small moments become anchors, reminders that you can return to yourself.
We talk about the beliefs that were never yours to carry, and how to gently put them down. We learn how to tell the difference between your true voice and the one shaped by fear, comparison, and expectation.
Because you are not too much, and you are never not enough.
“Healing isn’t about becoming someone new, it’s about becoming more of yourself.”
What This Space Offers
- Learn it’s okay to not be okay
- Navigate anxiety, overwhelm, or low mood
- Reconnect with your body, identity, and intuition
- Build self-worth beyond appearance or achievements
- Understand and calm your nervous system
- Let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism
- Feel grounded and connected to life again
Here, you can practise speaking without editing yourself. You can learn how to sit with your emotions without fearing they’ll take you over. You can feel what it’s like to be supported without conditions.
We slow down enough to notice the “glimmers”, the moments of lightness, however small, that show you your nervous system is finding its way back to balance. We work on building habits that honour who you are rather than punish who you’re not.
Imagine looking in the mirror, but not thinking I feel lost and seeing flaws, but seeing a person you’re learning to trust and care for, someone who feels like home.
Frequently Asked Questions
If you’ve been feeling lost, numb, or unable to cope for more than a couple of weeks, or if these feelings are affecting your daily life, it’s a sign that extra support could help. You don’t need to wait until things feel “bad enough” to reach out.
That’s completely okay. Many people start by saying, “I don’t even know where to start.” Part of our work together is finding the words and understanding for what you’re going through.
Yes. When your body is stuck in survival mode, it’s hard to think clearly, connect with others, or feel grounded. Learning to calm and reset your nervous system through nervous system regulation can open the door to feeling steady, safe, and more at home in yourself.
Yes and no. The tools and approach will be tailored to your stage of life, but the heart of the work, creating safety, connection, and self-trust, is the same at any age.
Everyone’s journey is different. Some people feel small shifts within a few sessions, others take longer. The aim is lasting change, not just a quick fix.
You’re Not Alone in This
If you’ve been thinking “I feel lost in life” or asking yourself “how to feel like myself again,” please hear me when I say, you’re not alone, and you don’t have to walk this path without support. The version of you you’re searching for has always been here, waiting for the safety to come forward.
Whether this is your first step or one of many, this could be where things begin to shift. You deserve connection. You deserve belonging. You deserve to come home to yourself.
Let’s walk this together. We’ll take it step by step, at your pace, finding the parts of you that feel steady and true. And one day, you’ll look back and realise that the girl who once whispered “I feel lost” found her way home.
